What we didn’t know – the morning after Brene gave her talk she locked herself in her house for 3-days with a vulnerability hangover which she opens up about in her latest talk on shame. Lesson here: It happens to the best of us and it’s ok – we’re daring greatly.
5 powerful quotes from Brene’s TED Talk we loved…
I learned something hard about myself – as much as I would get frustrated about not being able to get my work out to the world, there was a part of me that was working very hard to engineer staying small, staying right under the radar.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.
TED is like the failure conference. No, it is. You know why this place is amazing? Because very few people here are afraid to fail. And no one who gets on the stage, so far that I’ve seen, has not failed. I’ve failed miserably, many times. I don’t think the world understands that because of shame.
Shame, for women, is this web of unobtainable, conflicting, competing expectations about who we’re supposed to be. And it’s a straight-jacket.
Empathy’s the antidote to shame. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too.
If we’re going to find our way back to each other, vulnerability is going to be that path. And I know it’s seductive to stand outside the arena, because I think I did it my whole life, and think to myself,I’m going to go in there and kick some ass when I’m bulletproof and when I’m perfect. And that is seductive. But the truth is that never happens. And even if you got as perfect as you could and as bulletproof as you could possibly muster when you got in there, that’s not what we want to see. We want you to go in. We want to be with you and across from you. And we just want, for ourselves and the people we care about and the people we work with, to dare greatly.